💔 "Why Your Love Feels Unseen – The 'Swahili vs. Chinese' Marriage Problem"
He’s screaming love by providing financially (Swahili). She’s waiting for love in words/time (Chinese). Both feel unloved—while both are loving wrong. Here’s how to fix it!
🔍 Key Lessons:
✔️ Husbands: Your paycheck is love—but she needs your voice too (Hadith: "The best of you are those best to their wives")
✔️ Wives: His 90% income sacrifice = "I’d die for you" in his language
✔️ The Prophet’s ﷺ balance: Provided and hugged, spent and spoke love
✔️ Action plan: How to "translate" love so both feel valued
đź’ˇ Hard Truth:
"Taking each other’s sacrifices for granted is the silent killer of marriages."
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He’s screaming love by providing financially (Swahili). She’s waiting for love in words/time (Chinese). Both feel unloved—while both are loving wrong. Here’s how to fix it!
🔍 Key Lessons:
✔️ Husbands: Your paycheck is love—but she needs your voice too (Hadith: "The best of you are those best to their wives")
✔️ Wives: His 90% income sacrifice = "I’d die for you" in his language
✔️ The Prophet’s ﷺ balance: Provided and hugged, spent and spoke love
✔️ Action plan: How to "translate" love so both feel valued
đź’ˇ Hard Truth:
"Taking each other’s sacrifices for granted is the silent killer of marriages."
📌 Subscribe for real solutions—not just complaints!
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00:00So she is saying, he never says he loves me.
00:03He never spends time with me.
00:05This means he doesn't love me.
00:06And he for 10 years, 90% of his income is for the house.
00:11And she is ignoring this language completely.
00:13And he doesn't even realize there's a crisis.
00:16Because in his eyes, how can there be a problem?
00:19I'm taking care of you, taking care of the kids.
00:21Why is there an issue?
00:22Because he is screaming the language of love in his Swahili.
00:26And she doesn't speak Swahili.
00:27She's waiting for the Chinese language.
00:28You get my point here, right?
00:30So both parties need to understand the languages of love.
00:33Dear wives, the very fact that your husband is consistently taking care of the finances,
00:41this means he loves you.
00:42Or else you wouldn't be taken care of.
00:44We take our wives, generally speaking, I'm being stereotypical.
00:47But again, generally speaking, we take our wives housekeeping for granted.
00:51But vice versa, our wives take the house for granted.
00:54They take the finances for granted.
00:56And we both need to appreciate each other more.
01:00And understand that that is a language of love.
01:02Okay?
01:02Okay?
01:02Okay?
01:02Okay.
01:03Okay.
01:03Okay.