A woman who got divorced twice before she turned 30 says she's dating again - and wouldn't rule out tying the knot for a third time.
Marissa Baker, 32, was divorced for a second time by the time she was 29.
She met her first husband in college and the pair had a whirlwind relationship.
They married in 2014 but were divorced a year later because Marissa said the marriage turned "intense" and "unhealthy".
Before her first divorce was finalised, Marissa found herself in a relationship with the man who would be her second husband.
They married in 2019 but divorced just two years later in 2021 as Marissa said she needed to work on herself.
Now, three years on, Marissa has started dating again and says she's not been put off marriage for the right person.
Marissa Baker, 32, was divorced for a second time by the time she was 29.
She met her first husband in college and the pair had a whirlwind relationship.
They married in 2014 but were divorced a year later because Marissa said the marriage turned "intense" and "unhealthy".
Before her first divorce was finalised, Marissa found herself in a relationship with the man who would be her second husband.
They married in 2019 but divorced just two years later in 2021 as Marissa said she needed to work on herself.
Now, three years on, Marissa has started dating again and says she's not been put off marriage for the right person.
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00:00 My name is Marissa Baker and I've been married and divorced twice.
00:09 Patty's been divorced one time and so I think we both had just had enough of dating culture
00:15 and traditional marriage and now we're platonic life partners.
00:18 Marissa and I were acquaintances before both divorces took place and it was actually her
00:25 28th birthday or 29th birthday.
00:27 I showed up to her birthday party with my then husband and she asked me, I seemed a
00:32 little bit sad and she said, "You know what's wrong?
00:34 You seem a little bit off today."
00:36 And I said, "My husband of three years asked for a divorce last night.
00:40 I have no friends.
00:41 I have no family and I need a support system through this and I choose you."
00:45 So Marissa then checked in on me for about six months every day, helping me through the
00:49 divorce process and right around that six month mark, she got the courage to ask her
00:55 then husband, her second husband to get divorced for the second time.
01:00 So she moved in, brought her two dogs and since then we've just decided to do life together.
01:06 We just get the freedom to be ourselves.
01:09 It sounds like such a simple statement but we didn't really have those freedoms with
01:14 our ex-husbands and that's not to say that they're not good men but they had these expectations
01:21 of us and now we just get to show up as we are and it just makes life a lot easier.
01:28 We have fun together.
01:29 We laugh together.
01:31 I can be weird.
01:32 I'm messy at times.
01:36 The whole nine yards, I can make my TikToks on the balcony and there's nobody judging
01:40 me or criticizing me.
01:42 And I think similar to Patti is she actually gets to show up and be herself without feeling
01:48 like she's not enough.
01:49 Yeah, being the authentic version of yourself in your safe space, which is your home is
01:54 really important and I think since we've moved in together and been living together as partners,
01:59 it's really created that sense of home and safe space and friendship but it goes beyond
02:04 that because we've now entered into this life partner role that elevates that friendship
02:09 one level higher than just a normal best friend relationship is.
02:13 There's life choices being made that involve each other's opinions and there's just no
02:18 fighting.
02:19 There's nothing that you would have in a normal marriage.
02:21 This is just every day is a great day.
02:24 We're both young single females.
02:26 There's a lot of opportunity for travel and to see family and friends.
02:30 So we have shared calendars.
02:32 There's joint bills.
02:33 There's joint expenses.
02:34 So it's everything you would have in a normal marriage except for that title of a marriage.
02:39 Even in terms of health situations with doctor's appointments, I am Marissa's emergency contact.
02:45 She is my emergency contact.
02:47 If she brings someone home, it's like, "Hey, we're a package deal," and vice versa.
02:51 When there's men involved, they like to know what this relationship is because they don't
02:57 understand it.
02:58 So explaining that we're not just friends.
03:01 There's a partnership here and listen, you're getting both of us but there's only benefits
03:06 from one.
03:07 Between myself and between Patty, all my needs are met.
03:10 We want men but I think it's a very empowered place to be when you don't need them or when
03:17 you don't rely on them for financial provisions.
03:22 I think it's really cool to be in a place in the world where women have a choice rather
03:26 than I have to be here because I need them to survive.